Relationships...."To Be In Love"

The topic of relationships is so extrememly broad, because many people are just in love with the idea of love that they would accept to be in a relationship before they even know if they're supposed to be with this person or not. Then, you have some that are so blindly in lust that they settle for the ones that don't want a serious relationship; allowing themselves to be the "snack", something to tie you over before a meal, or the "main", (which is not the main because main means "only one"), in terms of a "main", "side-piece", & "friend w/benefits" type relationship. What is that? Why would you rather let your emotions and vulnerability set your own self up to fall into a trap? And when you believe that there is no true love, you can't blame anyone else for that but yourself. Another major thing that some may not recognize is how dangerous it is to jump from one relationship and get into another one. This "on to the next one" mentality isn't helping you grow and deal with your internal issues, nor can it help you to see what kind of relationship you need to be in. You once again let your vulnerability make you go from one man or woman to the next man or woman that shows you attention or says the right things. You let their constant mistakes, flaws, unnecessary arguments, and even "side-pieces" slide (allowing them to commit adultery) because you believe the sweet things they say, and the sex is amazing. Really? BREAK THE CYCLE!

If you do not have a relationship with GOD, you cannot love anybody. Period. It doesn't matter what your mind is saying, you have to truly love and KNOW GOD before you can love a person. They say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, but without acknowledging and loving the spirit of GOD that's in you, not only can you not know yourself, but you won't be able to appropriately love yourself or truly see the person in front of you. You can honestly tell when someone is deceiving you, you just choose to ignore it because of everything else that's going on; and if you can't see when someone is deceiving you, then you're not truly in touch with the spirit of God that's in you.

Can you tell the difference between love and lust? Many often confuse the two. Some believe that how a person interacts with you during a sex session determines if this person truly loves you. It's deception to believe that you finally found the one just because ya'll can "make love", instead of "just have sex". Sex is sex, so just call it sex. The term "make love" deceives you into believing that YOU can make your own love through a sexual act, and not to purely receive the true love GOD wants to give you. Check the definitions of sex and love, they are not the same. It doesn't matter if you do it slow or fast, gentle or rough, wild or calm. Premarital sex is a connection of spirits that's not in line with GOD. One will over power the other, or both will be confused and lost, allowing two to become one with no true purpose. That is why people turn into "love"-struck fools after they've had sex. Many people know this and claim to fall in love before they have sex. If you were truly in love, why did the relationship issues come after the sex?

I Corinthians 13:4-8 states that LOVE is patient, kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth. It always protects, it always hopes, it always trusts, it always perseveres. Love never fails. This is how we behave with one another when we're truly in love. There is no falling out of love.
Please understand life isn't easy, no matter what you do to try to make it easy for you. There are things this world says is ok, but in your GODs eyes, they are not. As we've stated in the previous post, if society does not follow the bible, then why follow society?  Jesus gave his life for our sins, allowing every one of us to be aware of the enemy's deception, not for you to let the enemy confuse you and trap you the way he has trapped others.

True Love (Poem)
How can I say I love her more than GOD, when GOD gave me breath,
how can I say I love this man, to be in love with the fasade of if he leaves I'll have nothing left,
to actually believe he/she controls my breathing, to allow this emotion to determine whether I rest,
how can I sleep without him, how can I live without her, the uncertainty of this so called love to determine how my day goes, my heart weighing on her/his every word,
Lord knows I care, but to say that this love is rare is naive and misleading,
If I let GOD guide me, I'll never hear those words from her lips "I'm leaving",
I'll never hear Him say I'm not coming back, GOD will tell me no lies, he is all fact,
So yes i do like her but love Him, yes i do like him but am in love with my GOD,
and if she loves Him and likes me, we can grow together
she comforts me like a cool breeze on GOD's most nice day,
because He loves me, He allows this man to take my breath away,
only to rejoice in my happines because i'm faithful to Him,
and he/she is my blessing,
and to look into his/her eyes and tell him/her how i feel without saying a word, that is a connection
a strong root from an unbreakable foundation
the reason for my hesitation
this has to be right, be patient, don't be afraid,
"when i show her/him to you, love her/him as you love me", i will
"when he/she says trust me, do so because you will see me through your loved one, i will outstrecth my hand, all of this because you came to me and wanted to understand true love,
becuase you love me faithfully, i have given you a companion so you can both love me through each other because i dwell in both of you, a perfect pure love
because only I, Jesus, is perfect and my father sent me to love and save you,
that you may love each other and find me, and know a true and complete love"